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Red Flags: A Conversation with Shalom Task Force Featuring Esther Williams and Shana Frydman



This episode is sponsored by Esther & Jerry Williams in honor of all those who support Shalom Task Force.

If you are in crisis please reach out to the Shalom Task Force Hotline at 888-883-2323.

On this episode of 18Forty, we have a deeply moving conversation on the topic of red flags in relationships. We speak with Esther Williams and Dr. Shoshannah Frydman from Shalom Task Force, and one person who extricated herself from an abusive relationship. The dynamics of relationships, whether healthy, unhealthy, or anywhere in between are complex, and we set out to better our understanding of the signs of relational abuse. Whether or not you have personally struggled with the issues we discuss here, we are all better off when we are more informed about the what and why of relational health, so tune in now.

In this interview, we discuss:

  • What are the signs of an unhealthy relationship?
  • How can we foster understanding and awareness of the dynamics of healthy and unhealthy relationship dynamics from an earlier age?
  • What are the steps one can take to extricate themself or heal from a challenging relationship?

First interview begins at 10:35

The Shalom Task Force, Inc (STF) is a non-profit community organization that aims to combat and prevent domestic violence and foster safe and healthy relationships and families. The STF focuses on helping those in the Jewish community that may not have access to traditional services and that need culturally sensitive programming. The STF runs a free, anonymous hotline that helps individuals find the services they need, provides assistance through legal services, supportive counseling, and referral information, and offers prevention and psychoeducational workshops, trainings, and community programs to increase awareness of relationship abuse and promote healthy relationships.

Dr. Shoshannah Frydman, PhD, LCSW is the executive director of Shalom Task Force. Dr. Frydman is a trauma-informed therapist and advocate who has worked in the field of domestic abuse and family violence in the Jewish community for close to 20 years. Dr. Frydman co-chairs the UJA Taskforce on Family Violence, and was recently appointed to the New York City Mayor’s Office to End Domestic and Gender-Based Violence COVID-19 Response Group. Dr. Frydman previously served as the managing director of Family Violence and Social Services at the Met Council. Dr. Frydman received her MSW from the University of Maryland School of Social Work and her PhD at the Graduate Center of the City University of New York/Hunter College Silberman School of Social Work.

Esther Williams is the President of the Shalom Task Force and a past board member and executive vice president of the Orthodox Union.


Shalom Task Force

Dealbreakers Talk Show #0001” on 30 Rock

18Forty – Teshuva Series

National Domestic Abuse Hotline

The Patient

The Quick Shift: Orthodox Jewish Women’s Early Marital Sexual Experience” by Shoshannah D. Frydman

Tradition and Transition. Orthodox Women’s Experience with Kallah Classes and Early Marital Intimacy” by Shoshannah D. Frydman

The Vow

The Greatest Average American by Nate Bargatze

This Is Us

The NCSY box

Shalom Task Force Guides and Educational Materials

I’m so Confused, Am I Being Abused? Guidance for the Orthodox Jewish Spouse and Those Who Want to Help by Lisa G. Twersky

Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship by Lisa A. Fontes

No Visible Bruises: What We Don’t Know About Domestic Violence Can Kill Us by Rachel Louise Snyder