This series is sponsored by our friends Sarala and Danny Turkel.
Judaism is a religious culture that places an intense emphasis on continuing the chain of tradition through the context of the family. Yet in an ever-changing contemporary world, families often disagree—sometimes in fundamental ways—about how to live this life. Faced with this disagreement between generations, some choose to ignore these differences, focusing instead on the seemingly uninterrupted flow of history within families. However, reflecting on intergenerational divergence offers important insights on the fundamental nature of family, faith communities, and religion in the contemporary world.
1. Family Narratives and Intergenerational Divergence: How does the way we tell our family’s story impact our family?
2. Dignity in Difference: Can intergenerational divergence be a road to fostering a greater intimacy and growth in a family?
3. Intergenerational Difference and the Jewish Tradition: How can families share a tradition while choosing to practice it differently?
An award-winning book from a writer famous for deeply human profundity, Far from the Tree is a powerful exploration of the question that every family faces in their own ways: how people who love each other work to accept each other for who they are, while helping them become their best selves. Solomon documents with exquisite compassion families with intergenerational divergence, considering families living with deafness, schizophrenia, or criminality, and others with children who are prodigies and those who differ in their gender or sexual identities from their familial culture. In each case, Solomon considers the great beauty and love that can emerge from these differences, and how ordinary families have grown to love each other.
This touching memoir is a testament to the deeply personal journey that one mother went through in learning to live and love with her children through their differences. As the title indicates, this is a story of a Conservative Jewish woman with two sons who decided to become Orthodox Jews and her process towards understanding and appreciating their decisions, no matter how difficult they may have been for her at first. This book speaks to the heart of the challenge and opportunity of intergenerational divergence and is a meditation that anyone who has experienced change will appreciate. This book pairs well with Jerome R. Mintz’s classic work, Hasidic People: A Place in the New World. Hasidic People is a deeply investigated social history of the Chassidic community in New York, with a particular eye to the stages of change, growth, and development that marked this community’s expansion in America.
This is a guidebook for developing a deeper family culture through wisdom and expertise of people from some of the most creative minds in America. Written by Bruce Feiler, a seasoned writer about faith, family, and the meeting point between the two—this book is full of fascinating perspectives on how to build a happy family, drawing on insights from all corners of culture and society. Take his advice or leave it, Feiler offers fresh and fun roads to familial growth with hands-on practices targeted at answering core questions that many families face: How do we manage the chaos of our lives? How do we teach our kids values? How do we make our family happier?