Suri Weingot: ‘The fellow Jew is as close to God as you’ll get’

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Benji Levy: Suri Weingot, it’s a privilege and pleasure to be sitting with you here today here in the beautiful mountains of Eretz Yisrael, of the Land of Israel. When I asked how you’d describe yourself, you said an educator, a teacher, a morah, and that really goes to the essence of who you are, for high school, for post high school, for the congregation of Aish Kodesh that your family founded. Thank you so much for being here. 

Suri Weingot: Pleasure, thank you for having me. It’s special to be here. Thank you. 

Benji Levy: So what is Jewish mysticism? 

Suri Weingot: Okay, I guess if you ask—those who know don’t say and those who say don’t know. I’m going to put myself in the “those who say don’t know” category. I’ll share about Pnimiyut HaTorah if you want to—under the umbrella of mysticism is the kind of things that, you know, sometimes feel hidden and we want to pull them out and bring them up. I’ll—I’m a lady, I’m going to give—all my examples relate to housekeeping and life at home. I don’t know if you know what a duvet cover is. You know what a duvet cover is? 

Benji Levy: Of course, I use one every evening when I go to sleep. 

Suri Weingot: Okay, fine. So I don’t know if you help with the duvet covers, but I remember when I got married trying so hard to put the blanket into the duvet cover and I was crawling inside the blanket trying to find those corners and then crawling out and I’m shaking and it was a ball of mess and it’s too big and it’s too small, nothing’s working. And then my mother-in-law comes over and I go, Ima, help me with these duvet covers. She goes, Suri, you’re doing it all wrong. You got to turn the cover inside out. You turn the cover inside out. Then it’s very, very easy. You place the blanket, you know, exactly where—because you see it from the other direction—then you give a little shake. 

As I’m sharing, if you know what I’m talking about, you know what I’m talking about. 

Benji Levy: I know exactly what you’re talking about. 

Suri Weingot: And if you don’t, go home and help with duvet covers, right? Sometimes we think that we have to … outside-in, but it’s inside-out. We have to go inside-out. Pnimiyut HaTorah is making sure that we get it right from the initial get-go. I look deeply into the shoresh of what I’m doing, to the source of what I’m doing and why I’m doing, and then things go nicely. They slip on much more beautifully. It’s much more complicated if we’re busy with the … if we’re busy so hard trying to find spaces for the corners in our lives on a halachic level or on a maaseh level. 

Benji Levy: Very practical or Jewish law. 

Suri Weingot: Exactly. If we don’t yet—if we don’t start by turning a little bit inside out. 

Benji Levy: Is there an example you have of turning inside out of the Hebrew letters? I heard you know a bit about the Hebrew letters. 

Suri Weingot: Sure, sure, I mean listen, everything’s the Hebrew letters. It’s the alef-bet. Bereishit bara Elokim et, you know, everything’s alef to tav. 

Benji Levy: It’s alef to tav, the first to the last letter. 

Suri Weingot: Exactly. You know, my favorite part—like this is a good example by the way, you know, I teach high school girls alef-bet. So until they come to eleventh grade, alef meant you know, wherever they left it in pre-1A honestly, wherever their morah pointed on the top of the of the chart: komatz alef ah, esrog, bet bayis, gimmel gamal. 

All of a sudden like, pshh, whoa! They’re never going to look at an alef again the same way. Now look, there’s a time and a place for everything but they could have been—they could be introduced to that younger, and then they’re going to see the word bayis and they’ll look at the bet and say “Ah, it’s an open home.” Oh, I get it. The bet has an opening towards the gimmel. The gimmel‘s the gomel, the giver. The giver’s walking to the dalet, his legs—the gimmel‘s leg is moving to the dalet. The dalet‘s the poor one. The dalet needs the gomel. 

Benji Levy: From the word dal which means poor. 

Suri Weingot: Exactly. Dal means poor. A gomel, a gimmel means to be, to give. Exactly. And the dalet though, where’s the dalet moving towards? The dalet, if you watch where he’s moving, he’s moving to the hey. Hey is the—it’s HaKadosh Baruch Hu. 

Benji Levy: That’s God Himself. 

Suri Weingot: Exactly. So every dal knows that he’s giving, but all the giving goes back to the—the one who’s receiving knows that it’s all coming from the hey. It’s all coming. And the difference between the dalet, right, the dalet is echad, right? If you take away that little yud of humility, it’s acher. We could put everything—we could give credit to everybody but echad if we’re not humble. 

Benji Levy: Acher being the other, echad referring to the oneness and unity of God. 

Suri Weingot: Exactly, exactly. 

Benji Levy: And the yud and the tav, the end of the bayit, how does that tie into bayit? 

Suri Weingot: Oh, it’s a long drasha, there’s a lot. 

Benji Levy: But the beginning is huge. 

Suri Weingot: Yeah, but you see as son as we open up our students, ourselves, all of a sudden like, wait, so everything has so much more meaning. Everything’s so much bigger because alef-bet is like the one thing where you’ll say there’s no more to it than meets the eye, right? It’s the way I—it’s what allows me to learn. No, they themselves are teaching you. The letters are speaking to you. Well, everything’s speaking to me. Everything’s speaking to me. Oh, the gimmel, it’s a gamal, it’s a camel. The camel’s speaking to me. What’s the camel saying in his shape, right? 

We have to have eyes that we need to learn when—I believe so deeply—when we’re very very young. It shouldn’t be—I know, there’s so much talk on adult education … am I rambling? I’m rambling? 

Benji Levy: No, it’s beautiful. I like that because what you’re basically saying is that you’re building a home, the bayit, that’s the example you gave, when they’re already a child. You can’t build a home when they’re 25. 

Suri Weingot: Right!

Benji Levy: You build the home when they’re five, when they’re learning those letters.

Suri Weingot: Right. Right. So with all the talk of everything that’s being discussed now and adult education—it starts with the babeluch. It starts with the language that we use in our home. It shouldn’t be a chiddush. 

Benji Levy: It shouldn’t be some innovative new thought. 

Suri Weingot: No, no, no. 

Benji Levy: It should be in the—so that leads us to the next question. I mean, you spoke about Pnimiyut HaTorah, mysticism as you know, going inside out. You grew up in the home of Rabbi Moshe Weinberger and Rebbetzin Weinberger. We discussed this personally before. But what’s your origin story with mysticism? You know, was it taught from them? Is there an encounter in your life that turned you from a mekabel to mashpia, that turned you into someone that really wants to give over this unique type of Torah? 

Suri Weingot: I’m not going to give you one moment per se. I’m waiting still for my moment. There are more to come, right? I don’t have my transformative moment, I have so many moments, but I could certainly share with you something specific that continues to guide me and when I, when I want to remind myself of my mission, I play this song over and over when I need chizuk. 

So there’s a beautiful songwriter-singer Michael Shapiro, he’s now becoming a little more known in the world because a lot of good people have been trying to get his stuff out there. 

Benji Levy: They just put an album out with him. 

Suri Weingot: I heard, I know. I’m not on any like … I don’t have a smartphone and I don’t have any WhatsApps or anything so I depend on everybody else to tell me when something good is coming out. And it was like such a mazel the other day. I happened to have to—I had to borrow somebody’s smartphone because I needed Waze to get somewhere and my machine was broken. And I put on, like 24/6, and it pops up. Moonlight. It must have, it was that day, it was Thanksgiving, and it must have just come out my whole ride there and back. And then I’m like, dad, how come no one told me? How come I didn’t know? Everyone knows they’re responsible to tell me when good things are coming. But I found out, he’s like, no, no, it just came out that day. So now people might know. If they’ve heard it, they might know what I grew up with. 

So we were driving, I was driving with my father, actually, and my sister back from a Yom Kippur program. We had gone to the country for Yom Kippur. My father was involved in … don’t remember which program it was, I don’t know. And he took me and my sister along probably to make Yom Kippur easier for my mother. I was like a little kid, you know? And on the way back we’re listening to music in the car, and I’m … maybe I’ll share this later because I know we’re supposed to share, we’re going to be sharing, maybe I’ll share this. 

But so I’m listening to it in the car and I’m not going to sing for you now, obviously, but the words that Michael Shapiro starts, “Look into the summer night sky from our whirling world and hold on to a thought of forever.” And then, and that’s the low, right? And then the music gets higher and higher and higher and it goes “And servants’ worlds making rounds in motions too profound to know, expressing holy harmony and voices raising prayers of love from all life’s seen and unseen to the Holy One blessed be He.” And he keeps repeating this, right? And voices raising prayers of love and and the music gets higher and higher and higher. 

And I remember, I was a little kid, I thought I got ruach hakodesh. I was in the car and I’m listening and something happened to me. And I wouldn’t tell my sister, she would make so much fun of me. 

Benji Levy: Now she’s going to hear about it. 

Suri Weingot: Yeah, I know, it’s okay, she always made fun of me the way I got into my music, but like she was the older sister, she has to make fun of me, right? But I remember I’m like, I’m not saying anything and I’m not even going to tell daddy in the front. And I looked and I put my head against the windowpane and I wanted to see, look into the summer night sky and hold on to a thought of forever. I was so young. And I was looking the ride home, can I see the malachim in circles dancing? 

Benji Levy: The angels. 

Suri Weingot: I want to see the angels making rounds in motions too profound to know. 

And that certainly, that’s something that I hold on to and I think that that was … if you want to give a moment to that there’s so much more going on all the time and to tap in to look into the summer night sky and ponder eternity. That was what got me, that’s what got me feeling so strongly about I guess our mission here.

Benji Levy: Well by the way that is how Abraham, how Avraham Avinu…

Suri Weingot: Very beautiful. 

Benji Levy: … Connected the first time.

Suri Weingot: So there you go, you’re right. 

Benji Levy: And he had to see there must be more to life than this. 

Suri Weingot: You’re right.

Benji Levy: He looked beyond, God even took him outside of the world to be able to see that infinity. 

Suri Weingot: So true. That’s great. Thank you. Now I feel like I just … doing what we were expected to do. 

Benji Levy: You’re looking in the same direction as Avraham. 

Suri Weingot: Look into the summer night sky. Right. That’s nice. 

Benji Levy: So should all Jews be mystics? Should we all be learning Pnimiyut HaTorah? 

Suri Weingot: Yeah, sure. I mean we got what—listen, that’s why I’m being mindful. I’m not saying everyone open up Sifrei Kabbalah. Pnimiyus HaTorah means the wise, it means that there’s ratzon Hashem pulsating. God’s desire is pulsating. The world is alive. So everybody has an obligation to know that and see that. Everyone. 

My mother-in-law’s a very special lady. And I remember once she … she loves grass and trees and I was sitting outside with her mindlessly and I pulled a piece of grass and she … she gasped. She gasped. “Ah! It’s alive, Suri, it’s alive!” Like oh, she’s so machshiv. She’s so machshiv the godliness inside a blade of grass. 

Benji Levy: She recognizes… 

Suri Weingot: Yeah, that it was alive. That’s Pnimiyus HaTorah. 

Benji Levy: Well, Chassidut talks about, I mean there’s beautiful texts about angels that are whispering to each single blade of grass. 

Suri Weingot: Yes. They’re telling them to grow. And who am I to step on an ant or to pull a piece of grass? Life, chiyus is pulsating with ratzon Hashem. So who’s allowed to say it’s not for me? We make Birkas HaIlanos, right? 

Benji Levy: Say a blessing on the trees. 

Suri Weingot: Exactly. 

Benji Levy: So that blessing is to recognize godliness. 

Suri Weingot: Shello chasar be’olamo klum. And we say that Hashem … it’s my favorite bracha. Rak lehanos bahem bnei adam. He created it for the human’s pleasure. What’s pleasure? Le’his’aneg al Hashem. There’s nothing more pleasurable than seeing godliness in your hamburger and your blade of grass. That’s Pnimiyus. 

Benji Levy: Amazing. 

Suri Weingot: Yeah. 

Benji Levy: It’s the inside of the duvet cover. 

Suri Weingot: Exactly. 

Benji Levy: So what, you talk about godliness, you talk about seeing God, the hand of God. What is God? 

Suri Weingot: We are—Tzelem Elokim. What is God? 

Benji Levy: I mean, do you have a vision when you pray to God, when you think of God, when we say that word or different words that describe Him? 

Suri Weingot: Yeah, well look. You know, I happen … I remember sitting in a class actually in … on the Neve campus with Rabbi Refson. And he said that a lot of people he finds are struggling when we talk about Him as a loving father. Because those that didn’t have a loving father don’t understand what a father figure looks like, right? So there’s a lot of … Hashem has given us a lot of different meshalim down here… 

Benji Levy: Parables.

Suri Weingot: … to work with based on what works best for us, right? Avinu … Melech is a tricky one. I don’t love talking to students about kings and queens. And then they go, if you’re ever in England, I don’t know what this king is looking like, you know, like, okay, of course. Malchus, we have to elevate that a little past, like, well the princess in England, right? But so, you know, everyone’s God and the pesukim speak to us.

But so I could just share with you Memale kol almin vesovev kol almin umibaladecha ein shum metzius klal.

Benji Levy: How would you translate that? 

Suri Weingot: Hashem, You fill all worlds, You surround all worlds, there is no metzius that isn’t You. 

Benji Levy: No reality. 

Suri Weingot: There’s no reality. Hakadosh Baruch Hu is our reality. And anything that feels like a reality, that means we’re tasting godliness. 

So when we feel more alive than ever, that’s Hashem. That’s God. So if that music, or that dance, or that shiur, or that landscape, or that person makes you feel alive in a way that feels more powerful than you feel sometimes in other moments of life, ah, Ki imcha mekor chayim. 

Benji Levy: The source of life. 

Suri Weingot: The source of life. So when you feel alive … when you feel alive … and then look, someone could say I feel alive and then they feel more alive, like ah, I thought I felt alive, I didn’t even know. We should keep strengthening what life … what the most joyful—I remember reading the Bushes, Barbara and George … well Bush … at a 100 years old … I don’t know if both of them did, maybe both of them skydived at a 100. They wanted to feel alive. I’m like, everyone’s got what makes them feel alive, you know? But when you feel most alive, let yourself understand why you feel so alive. 

Benji Levy: I also like that because you feel so alive but also there’s times when you felt more alive because God is infinite. So you’re never going to completely encapsulate it all, but you at least appreciate that moment when you feel that life force and then you feel it again. 

Suri Weingot: Right, right, right. And also you taste chiyus, then you say, okay, there’s nothing that feels more alive than life, and there’s nothing more alive than Hashem. So He’s chiyus, that’s it, you know? 

Benji Levy: Endless life force that animates everything. 

Suri Weingot: Exactly. 

Benji Levy: So what is the purpose of the Jewish People then? What are we here to do? 

Suri Weingot: So there we go, to make sure that … to make sure that this world is pulsating with life. To bring light to, to bring light, to open and uncover what it’s all about, you know? To just make sure—the Lubavitcher Rebbe, one of my favorite books is Positivity Bias. It’s pretty new, you know, but the Lubavitcher Rebbe, he saw every single chiddush that came out was just…

Benji Levy: Every new thought. 

Suri Weingot: Every new thought, every new invention, every birth of anybody, anybody, you know, that was becoming a somebody, they are here to further Hakadosh Baruch Hu and Am Yisrael‘s mission on this earth. So Am Yisrael‘s job is to take everything as it comes and open it up and peel it to reveal the light. To reveal, to reveal Him. 

Benji Levy: So how does prayer work then? 

Suri Weingot: Well I think there’s a lot of different parts of tefilla. Va’ani tefillasi, well…

Benji Levy: I am my prayer. 

Suri Weingot: I am my prayer. Prayer is … I am … my goal, my tachlis, my opportunity is to speak Hashem’s words and to reveal His words. And I think tefilla, if we’re paying close attention as we speak, it’s like our, it’s our, what do they call it, you know, like every school they’ve got their mission statements. You have to remind yourself of your mission statements, right? Tefilla reminds me of my mission statements. Tefilla is my mission statement. You daven, you open yourself up to formal or informal conversation with Hashem. 

You know they say now couples need date nights, you know, so and then now they say, oh couples, they need to get away on vacations, everyone’s got their own style. And sometimes I’ll laugh, I’ll say maybe, maybe that’s what you need, but maybe every night we have date night. Maybe our home, maybe our home is my vacation spot, right? Maybe we talk so much, what do you know, right? So we don’t, tefilla is date night every night, tefilla is a honeymoon getaway every day, right? 

Benji Levy: It’s a rendezvous with God. 

Suri Weingto: Exactly. Exactly. 

Benji Levy: And then what’s the goal of Torah study? 

Suri Weingto: The goal of Torah study, well like I shared before, it’s the or of Hakadosh Baruch Hu. 

Benji Levy: The light of God. 

Suri Weingot: It’s the light of God. Torah study is the, it’s the … you know, it’s both sides of the duvet cover if we’re back to our duvet, right? It’s the inside and it’s the outside, it’s the os and it’s the white parchment that holds the os. I mean Torah study is the map, it’s the full map. Now they’ve got Waze directs you then it redirects you then it redirects you again. Here’s traffic, go this way, it’s there’s so many different directions you could get so farblunjet, and I still do get farblunjet, but Torah when they say there’s 70 ways, there’s taka 70 ways, and you can’t get farblunjet, you know, follow, follow. 

Benji Levy: I love how you keep coming back to the duvet because it keeps you warm. And it’s not just the inside out, it’s also … so that’s what the Torah provides us, that’s the subtext. So does Jewish mysticism view women and men as the same? 

Suri Weingot: Yeah sure, I mean men and women are the same. I don’t, we’re talking about neshamos here, if you’re talking about gilgulim, you’re not, female doesn’t necessarily remain female, male doesn’t remain male, it’s qualities and traits. 

Benji Levy: In terms of the journeys of reincarnation. 

Suri Weingot: Yeah, you know, kids love asking that stuff in school, right? They love that because I think we need to teach a shtickl more pnimiyus. We gotta teach a little more pnimiyus, otherwise when you have a question and answer with the rabbi it’s like, tell me about my reincarnation because everyone gets excited about something. But I don’t—we sometimes … we limit male and female because we think of them as gender. Male and female are traits and qualities that we need to make sure to interact with, always. There’s times for gevurah and there’s times for chesed. 

Of course as we come closer to Mashiach we’re seeing the feminine traits are very important. Ahavas Yisrael, which is conversation, certain female traits that are certainly men have been more comfortable with now and there are certain male traits that women are becoming more comfortable with. So I don’t think Hashem, zakhar u’nekeivah…

Benji Levy: Bara otam. 

Suri Weingot: Exactly. 

Benji Levy: Male and female He created them. 

Suri Weingot: Yeah, exactly. I do find Lashon Hakodesh to be amazing in that… 

Benji Levy: The Hebrew language. 

Suri Weingot: Yes, the Hebrew language is so fascinating because now you know, if you go into a store and I say to somebody you—it can be very appropriate because I’m asking you for, can you help me? It’s a tricky world, you know, and I can keep it very… 

Benji Levy: Gender neutral. 

Suri Weingot: Gender neutral. Lashon Hakodesh doesn’t allow you to do that. It’s lach or it’s lecha. You have to identify the midah as male or female, right? There’s Shechina, what’s Shabbos, right? What’s—Shechina‘s female, HaKadosh Baruch Hu is male. If we pay close attention, the world’s divided into zachar v’nekeivah attributes. So by Hashem, I don’t think the distinction is what … where we need to use different qualities to bring out what’s necessary. 

Benji Levy: And should Judaism be hard or easy? 

Suri Weingot: It’s a great question. You know I like that question. So often I hear people talking about like, ameilus baTorah, you know? 

Benji Levy: Toil in it. 

Suri Weingot: Toil and toil. And I have to tell you, like I can’t really buy my husband presents. The only gift I could get him is to say stay out all day and learn, right? It’s his favorite thing in the whole world. My father’s favorite thing, my husband’s favorite thing. It’s candy, it’s sugar. Send me to a massage, but my husband wants to, all day, all he just wants to do learn Torah. So I should be zocheh to find it like a massage. But I think that it should be both. I think it should be hard in the sense that we always need koach to pull ourselves out of the craziness and remind ourselves of our tafkid and our tachlis. That can be hard. 

Benji Levy: Of our role and of our purpose. 

Suri Weingot: Yes, our role and our purpose. We can get easily stuck on a treadmill because of people that we’re sometimes surrounded by or because of expectations or certain goals that we place for ourselves that are not lofty goals, and just the regular day-to-day life. It can be easier not to be mindful and aware and present and on. 

So I think that can be hard, that’s where it can be hard. It’s hard to get into a pool, but once you’re in it, there’s nothing more delicious, right? Because then you say this is the best thing ever. I’ve never felt better. I can’t believe I’ve lived my life without this until now. But it can be hard to jump into a pool, right.

Benji Levy: So why did God create the world? 

Suri Weingot: God’s a giver. This takes a lot of time. This takes time. God’s a giver and He wants to bring His light in the most giving, beautiful way. And we haven’t yet seen it. We’re going to get there. We’re going to get there. 

Benji Levy: But He started the process. 

Suri Weingot: He started the process. I think when we get to redemption, we’re going to know why He created the world. We’re still working towards that. We still have a lot of whys. 

Benji Levy: So on that journey, can we do anything against God’s will? 

Suri Weingot: Well, He certainly gave room, He gave room for the human struggle, but that’s also His will. 

Benji Levy: Sounds like a paradox to me. 

Suri Weingot: Yeah, it is. 

Benji Levy: So what do you think about—you said when we get to the end of days—what do you think about when we say the word Mashiach? What does this look like? What is that reality? 

Suri Weingot: You know, different times, different things. But my favorite vision of it is when I love to sit in the Old City and you see children holding hands and they’re skipping, and you see old men and old women, and od yeshvu zekeinim u’zekeinos birchovos Yerushalayim, right? U’rechovos ha’ir yimaleu yeladim v’yelados mesachakim birchovoseha. That we’re going to have the old men and the old women and the children dancing and singing in the streets. 

I think like no dance and no song is complete right now. But to me, the dance and the skipping of the young children and the old people, that means you’re not going to have the old people feeling down because of the pain of life. You’re not going to have the young children unfortunately now who also are not skipping the way maybe they used to skip because of the pain. It’s going to be the most glorious revelation of all times, and it’ll bring to unbelievable joy. Kol choson v’kol kallah. I’m seeing the streets full of weddings and of children and of old people and there’ll be plenty of room for everybody. 

Benji Levy: What’s beautiful is you described the reality that exists. 

Suri Weingot: We’re getting there. 

Benji Levy: You’re in the Old City and you quoted the verses from the Bible that actually describe this. So is the State of Israel part of the final redemption? Is it part of that process? 

Suri Weingot: We’re getting there. Look, look what’s opened up to us. Look what’s opened up to us. I mean, Hashem is … I think He’s giving us peeks. You know, we’re coming close to Chanukah, and there’s nothing more exciting for my kids than when they see that I have wrapped presents hidden under the bed, you know. So they can take all the guesses they want because they see the sizes and the shapes, but they have … they’re already borrowing from future joy. And they’re so excited for Chanukah. I like to do it early because I want them to build up their joy. So I make sure to do that very early on. 

I think Hashem has been giving us a lot of gifts in the State of Israel right now so that you know, a lot of what is going to be we’re already slowly unwrapping. But we haven’t seen … we’ve seen … we ain’t seen nothing yet. We’re getting there, you know. 

Benji Levy: Exciting. 

Suri Weingot: Yeah, it’s going to be amazing. 

Benji Levy: So what’s the greatest challenge facing the world today? You’ve got many unique perspectives and one of them is really teaching the next generation. Do you see a major challenge? 

Suri Weingot: Major challenge facing the world today? Yeah, well I can only share from my perspectives obviously as a teacher, as a teacher of mostly teenagers and a mother of mostly teenagers. People want … they want the gold but they don’t know which shovels they need to use to get there and they don’t know that there’s a process and it’s going to feel very wonderful if they’re given the right tools and they start digging. 

You know, the Lubavitcher Rebbe talks about the earth as, you know, a metaphor. There’s—the best of it is down deep. There’s natural resources also in the pebbles and in the stones. You dig a little more, you get to the … you know my husband gardens so he can speak more of it but the mud that’s got even more going, you know? Dig a little deeper. You’re not going to find it in Woodmere but there’s gems, there’s gold, right? 

So a lot of the kids are getting tastes of it but they don’t quite know which tools are available. They don’t even know that they’ve got a toolbox available and they don’t know the instruction manual for what you use to uncover what, right? But they’re so open. The kids are like, they’re so open. They want to learn so we have to give them shovels. We have to tell them what natural minerals are under their feet and let them explore. Get digging. 

Benji Levy: How has modernity changed Jewish mysticism? 

Suri Weingot: Oh, there’s much more access. There’s just so much unbelievable access to Torah. 

So what you, you know, people … what used to be it was in, maybe they were lucky if it was on their Shabbos table or their rav in their community or their morah in their classroom. No one’s limited. No one’s limited. So everything’s been brought. We’ve got a smorgasbord. It’s all been brought to us. Thank God. 

Benji Levy: And what differentiates Jewish mysticism from other forms of mysticism or other mystical traditions in other religions? What makes it unique? 

Suri Weingot: I don’t know much about what’s out there but it’s emes. I could tell you it’s emes. You know, if you go into a store, you know, you go into the jewelry store or you go into let’s say the bakery, you start asking questions. Some people like them, some people don’t, right? The bakery that likes them is the one that has awesome stuff to sell you. So if you say where do you get your flour from and what oven are you using? They’re more excited than ever. 

The one who’s avoiding the questions doesn’t have so much to … their product’s not awesome. So we’ve got the most beautiful products. The more you dig the more you’ll find about the products that Hashem is serving us. 

Benji Levy: And we’re fully transparent about that. 

Suri Weingot: Exactly. Because you can be. You could afford to be if you’re selling real jewelry you could tell them to take it out, study it, bring it to every jeweler they want. We don’t care. Do what you want. We’ve got it. We’ve got gold. 

Benji Levy: So do you have to be religious to study Jewish mysticism? 

Suri Weingot: No. It should certainly … Pnimiyus HaTorah, learning Torah, learning Pnimiyus, learning the ratzon of Hashem should open one’s heart up to then come to walk and continue on a journey of every area of life fulfilling ratzon Hashem, Hashem’s desires. So you can start wherever you are, wherever you come into the picture. You’ve got to keep the journey going though if you really want to make sure that you are a vehicle for the light of the Creator. 

Benji Levy: So can it be dangerous to study this type of Torah? 

Suri Weingot: Dangerous? Depends what we’re looking at. I mean it can certainly … it can be dangerous for anybody to think that they’ve filled themselves up if they don’t continue studying ratzon Hashem. That can be dangerous. A false sense of pride is dangerous. A false sense of ruchnius, it’s like you could drink a lot of water and think you’re full and you still haven’t gotten all your nutrition. So it’s important to make sure to continuously explore Torah and ratzon Hashem. 

And also I do see that it can be dangerous to just … it’s dangerous when anything comes with too much intensity where one is … like we say if you want to talk about going into a pool, you could drown. You have to come up for air. You have to know how to interact with people. It comes down to healthy interactions. And if somebody is not interacting with beautiful refined middos, you know, if they’re if they’re sitting there over the books or over their concepts but it’s not translating into how I treat a fellow Jew, that’s dangerous because the fellow Jew is as close to God as you’ll get, and the whole goal of learning Torah and Pnimiyus is to get close to God. 

Avraham Avinu said, “Excuse me, Hashem, I’ve got malachim here, I’ve got angels to deal with.” If we forget about the angels because we’re interacting with godliness, we’re not reaching God. That can be dangerous. 

Benji Levy: So how is it in a personal way? How has it changed your own relationships? You talk about the importance, of the effect with your children, with your students, with your parents, with your husband. How has it affected your relationships? Is there any personal examples that you can really see how the teachings have influenced that? 

Suri Weingot: Yes. I hope to say, I think I’m comfortable saying and I hope to feel this way that I love every single person I talk to. I love them. Yeah. I don’t need to work through loving my students. You could say it’s natural to love children, but I don’t know, it’s … not all the time, you know? But if we walk into a room with our students and our children and our spouse and we say, Hineni muchan u’mezuman lekayem mitzvat aseh shel veahavta lere’acha kamocha, I now, God, accept upon myself the mitzvah of loving a fellow Jew, I think that that’s the way in. It’s the way in. That’s it. All the stuff, everything else is shtuyot. Nothing else really matters, you know? It’s the easiest way. 

You could have every good class on how to be a teacher. If you don’t love the godliness in the student right away, how are you going to teach godliness? 

Benji Levy: I think that really, like, sums up mysticism because people think it’s something all the way out there. You learn the Baal HaSulam or some of these, it’s all about veahavta lere’acha kamocha. It’s all about loving the other and how you can bring it practically into this world. 

Suri Weingot: Exactly. That’s it. Right. It’s very easy. It’s easy. 

Benji Levy: Well, it’s not always so easy for everyone. 

Suri Weingot: No. 

Benji Levy: You’ve got to work at it. 

Suri Weingot: But it’s easy in terms of lo bashamayim hi velo me’ever hayam. We don’t need to go far and travel wide and engage or interact with specific kinds of people. Of course, that too. Turn to your right, turn to your left, and there is godliness everywhere. 

Benji Levy: Beautiful. So we talked all about these different teachings. Can you share one teaching before we close this conversation that you take with you, that inspires you, that you teach to your students, something that comes to mind? 

Suri Weingot: So many. There are so many. Okay, it’s less of a teaching and more of a collective approach I find helps me all the time. So we grew up on stories of a lot of tzaddikim, of course, but Rav Levi Yitzchak miBerdichev was the tzadik that I always felt the most connected to. 

Benji Levy: Is that why you named one of your children? 

Suri Weingot: Yeah. My sister actually was in Eretz Yisrael on a trip when I had our son, and she came home before the bris and then she gave me books on Rav Levi Yitzchak and she said, “I got them for him.” I said, “Wait one second, but he hadn’t been named.” She goes, “What? You think I didn’t know? Of course he’s going to be named Levi Yitzchak,” you know? She said, you know, I guess she was so confident, it was worth a few shekalim, you know? He still has those books. He still has those books. 

But so what speaks to me most and it was like the Torah of his whole life and I think it needs to be the Torah of our life is that he would look at every action of Klal Yisrael and then turn to Hashem and say, “You see that, Hashem? You see your Yidden? You see your people? Look who they are. Look who they are. Look at them. Look how good they are. This is why we need You. This is why You need to stay—we need You and You need us. 

We need to only see the good in another Yid. We need to only see the good in everything like I said before that comes out into this world, every situation, because that’s what Hashem, that’s what Hashem’s seeing in us, that’s what we want him to continue seeing in us, that’s what we have to do. 

So I think when it comes to my children, the students, and you know, any teaching, the focus is always finding Hashem in another and that’s through, you know, I think most of Rebbe Nachman’s teachings which inspire me in that way is to always look for the nekuda tova, always. It’s the first thing you want to pull out of somebody because then we wave that to Hashem. Say, “Look, Hashem, he’s one of Yours. That’s the nekuda tova.” We need Hashem to do it for us all the time, to find our nekuda tova. 

Benji Levy: Beautiful. Well, I think that it’s very clear just from this conversation and I know anyone that’s listened to this will come out inspired because I know I have. That you see the best in everyone. That’s why you’re able to love everyone that you speak to, that you teach, that you learn with, that you connect with, and we give you a bracha. We give you a blessing that you continue to see that goodness in every other person, that God continues to see that goodness in you, and through that we can build those bridges from the real to the ideal on that Messianic era, on that arc that we’ve described, so that we can truly be one, Hashem echad u’shemo echad, that God’s name can be as one. 

Suri Weingot: Amen. Amen. Amen. Thank you.