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Elissa Felder & Sonia Hoffman: How the Jewish Burial Society Cares for the Dead
Elissa Felder and Sonia Hoffman serve on a chevra kadisha and teach us about confronting death.
Summary
In this episode of the 18Forty Podcast, we talk to author Elissa Felder and her daughter Sonia Hoffman—both of whom have experienced the loss of a child and serve on a chevra kadisha—about what the Jewish burial society teaches us about confronting death. In this episode we discuss:
- How does the process of purifying a dead body work—and how is it possible to purify a dead body at all?
- What Kabbalistic practices are performed by chevra kadisha to bring dignity to the body and soul?
- How can we “normalize” discussions about grief and death?
Tune in to hear a conversation about how care for the deceased is a “love story” between the Jewish People and God.
Interview begins at 15:31.
Elissa Felder started and actively manages Core’s community of practice for women who serve on a traditional chevrah kadisha. The knowledge she acquired through her work motivated her to write From One Life to the Next Life; The Sacred Passage after Death, a memoir about the loss of her baby son. She is the head of her local chevrah kadisha and speaks widely on this topic.
Sonia Hoffman is a Limmudei Kodesh teacher at Kohelet Yeshiva in Philadelphia. She is a daughter, mother, wife and member of the Bala Cynwyd community. She is also an active member of the Philadelphia Chevra Kadisha, having started during COVID to help with this mitzvah. After the loss of their daughter in 2016, she began speaking about her experience with loss and sharing resources with the community on ways in which we can move forward after tragedy. In addition, Sonia began hosting an annual event in her daughter’s memory to bring awareness to the community around the topic of infant loss and relationship with God.
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Interview begins at 15:31.
Elissa Felder started and actively manages Core’s community of practice for women who serve on a traditional chevrah kadisha. The knowledge she acquired through her work motivated her to write From One Life to the Next Life; The Sacred Passage after Death, a memoir about the loss of her baby son. She is the head of her local chevrah kadisha and speaks widely on this topic.
Sonia Hoffman is a Limmudei Kodesh teacher at Kohelet Yeshiva in Philadelphia. She is a daughter, mother, wife and member of the Bala Cynwyd community. She is also an active member of the Philadelphia Chevra Kadisha, having started during COVID to help with this mitzvah. After the loss of their daughter in 2016, she began speaking about her experience with loss and sharing resources with the community on ways in which we can move forward after tragedy. In addition, Sonia began hosting an annual event in her daughter’s memory to bring awareness to the community around the topic of infant loss and relationship with God.
For more 18Forty:
NEWSLETTER: 18forty.org/join
CALL: (212) 582-1840
EMAIL: info@18forty.org
WEBSITE: 18forty.org
IG: @18forty
X: @18_fortyWhatsApp: join here
References
Teshuvot HaRadbaz Volume 3, 985
“Passing Through” by David Bashevkin
“Reconciling Opposites: Uncommon Connections in the Halakha of Mourning” by Emanuel Feldman
From One Life to the Next Life; The Sacred Passage after Death by Elissa Felder
The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief by Francis Weller
The Choice: Embrace the Possible by Dr. Edith Eva Eger
Consolation: The Spiritual Journey Beyond Grief by Maurice Lamm
Gesher Hachaim – The Bridge of Life by Rabbi Yechiel Michel Tucazinsky
Rabbi Yitzchak Hutner’s Theology of Meaning by Alon Shalev
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