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Gayle Kirschenbaum: Learning to Forgive My Mother
We speak with Gayle Kirschenbaum about how she repaired her fraught relationship with her mother.
Summary
This series is sponsored by Mira and Daniel Stokar.
In this episode of the 18Forty Podcast, we speak with Gayle Kirschenbaum—author of Bullied to Besties: A Daughter’s Journey to Forgiveness—about how she repaired her fraught relationship with her mother.
In this episode of the 18Forty Podcast, we speak with Gayle Kirschenbaum—author of Bullied to Besties: A Daughter’s Journey to Forgiveness—about how she repaired her fraught relationship with her mother.
At the end of the podcast, we hear from her mother, Millie, herself, now over 101 years old. In this episode we discuss:
- What does a “forgiveness coach” teach her students?
- How can we repair relationships across generations?
- What does it take to try to understand the full humanity of our parents?
Tune in to hear a conversation about healing, forgiveness, and teshuva through love.
Interview begins at 14:29.
Gayle Kirschenbaum is an Emmy-winning TV producer, writer, photographer, coach, and speaker. She was invited to give a TED Talk called “No More Drama With Mama,” about forgiveness and transforming difficult relationships into healthy ones.
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References
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Bullied to Besties: A Daughter’s Journey to Forgiveness by Gayle Kirschenbaum
“No More Drama With Mama” by Gayle Kirschenbaum“
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